The Toomey family came back to Maryland for cousin Julian's baptism at the very same church where Rob and Courtney were married and where cousin Will was baptised. It was a blast to have our families together again.
Saturday, September 11, 2010
Another Tragic Loss
Here is the sonogram of Clarke Baby #4. Here's her story...
We were told when we went in for an early sonogram that the egg was a blighted ovum (no baby ever developed) and that I would miscarry in 7-10 days. This would have been our 2nd miscarriage in 2months.
I began to feel more and more sick and wasn't miscarrying the baby. They brought me in for a repeat sonogram (this is the picture you see above) and we saw a baby with a strong heart beat. Surely, this was God giving us a miracle so we could have a healthy pregnancy after all we had been through with our loss the previous month. We went in for another sonogram at 11 weeks and our baby girl's heart had stopped beating. What a kick in the gut that was.
Because of her size at that point in time they suggested a D&C because I would have most likely needed one anyway. So, that's what we did and because of the two miscarriages so close together we thought it would be helpful to have this baby tested to see if there might be a problem with my carrying children.
We found out that this sweet girl had what it called Turner's Syndrom. It is one of the leading causes of miscarriage. It is when a girl only recieves one X chromosome rather than the normal two. These girls can sustain life but often do not. We found out quite a bit about what she would have looked like. She would have had a sheild shaped chest (wider at the top than normal), possibly a webbed neck and she would have been shorter than average, which in this family definitely would have been a noticable difference!
After learning this news there were positives and negatives. The good news...it most likely is not a problem with my body or Tom's and my genetic make up. The sad news, I wanted this little girl so much more than I had before. It was so hard to know such defining characteristics about her. I have a picture in my mind of this little girl that I can't get out of my head and I don't want to.
If she had lived she would have had some health issues but she would have lived a normal life with a normal IQ and all the "normal" things you and I do...independent living, work, marriage, etc... To know that she wouldn't have suffered made it all the harder that I couldn't have her and hold her...I would give a good many things to be able to do just that.
In any case, she isn't mine to hold, she is God's. He wanted her and she is in a much better, more peaceful place enjoying eternity in heaven. All I pray is that when I get to heaven I will see her and know her even though I never set eyes on her in this life. I believe I will.
I love you, Baby Girl.
Celebrating Tom's Promotion
It just so happens that Tom was promoted on the same day that Lelia was having her first sleep over at Uma's house. So, we were missing one important part of our family for the celebration of Tom's promotion. Sedona loved being the center of attention for a change and we had a blast enjoying her for such a special night. I am so proud of my husband who works so hard to provide for our family and does such a wonderful job at it too! Thanks, Babe :)Tuesday, July 27, 2010
My Little Girl Is Growing Up!
I just wanted to write a quick post for this past week for Lelia to look back on. This week we have had a few firsts that have made me tear up and know that my little girl is no longer little any more. Friday night she had her very first sleep over at Uma's house without Mommy or Daddy. In spite of the fact that she only got 4 hours of sleep due to a talking pillow and a cat who startled her awake by playing her with her feet, she did great and wasn't homesick at all. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel about that. Then, yesterday she went to her first summer camp for 3 hours by herself. She was so excited to play on the gymnastics equipment that she didn't mind me leaving at all. She did great. I can't believe we have gotten to this point with her already. My little girl is growing up!!
Thursday, July 22, 2010
Lelia's First Trip to the Dentist!!
Lelia went to the dentist for the first time yesterday and she did a GREAT job. She did just what the hygenist asked her to do as well as the doctor. After the appointment she got to pick out a special tooth brush and a ring. Afterwards she asked if she could pick one out for her sister...awww!
Aunt Beth's Visit / Chuch-E-Cheese
Tom's sister, Beth, came to visit us for a week in mid-July. We always have such a nice time with her and she's always bearing many many gifts! They went to Chuch-E-Cheese without mommy(home sick with 1st trimester yucks) to play and have fun.
4th of July in Washington DC
We took the girls matresses with us and they slept on the floor. They LOVED this set up so much that we had to separate thier 2 matresses (see above) because they were too excited to sleep so close together :) 
At the DC 4th of July parade...it was HOT!
We went to the pool. Sedona couldn't swim because I forgot her swimming diaper. I tried to sneak her into the pool before they noticed and she peed on the concrete right in front of the lifeguard about 30 seconds before I could get her in the pool. My dishonesty was revealed. It was pretty embarrassing!
We borrowed Jack and mom's condo that is about 2 blocks from a metro stop. The above picture is how we ate our meals. They have the condo because Jack works in Tysons Corner and needs a place to stay some nights during his work weeks. So...they don't have a table to eat at because they don't need one. The girls LOVED eating on the floor. Especially Sedona.
We went to the National zoo!
One of the girls favorite parade floats...Madeline. They love that book...thier Uncle Nick gave it to them.Making Margarita Pizzas
One of the most important things to me as I raise my girls is in training them to be keepers of a home some day. They are very young now to be doing any "real" training but I am getting them started in the little fun things...like making our favorite pizza! 
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